Current Single Life

                                             Current Single Life 

The current single life for many are different , with that we all get many different actions , different experiences.

For many it can be very depressing,lonely,very emotionally painful from with in us all to start.

And over time it gets more then aggravating , annoying,very emotionally depressing in the sense that 

we all feel at different parts of of our lives as if there is some thing making us feel lower then low to the points of feeling as if we are either unattractive,not very important to many if any at all.

It basically makes many want to end their lives first by saying that they do not want to live anymore or that they want to die in their sleep , never wake up at all, where many of us say out loud but mostly to ourselves where noone else can hear , at times when we are by ourselves.

Then when we get the opportunity or chance to get to know another person we do not always get to go any further then just meet , talk with the person only that one time,I know that particular aspect is not very helpful when we seem to be at ease with emotionally to start.

But there are times where we do get to actually meet with the person be that a man or woman outside of the meeting place wherever that may have been be that on a bus or work place or on a lunch break or while food shopping or even while hanging out with a friend or friends or sitting , reading a good book or writing or doing so art work such as sketching a picture.

Going to bars , night clubs are not the right places to go to meet , hook up , build a stable logical 

relationship with the other.

It is better to stay clear of that surrounding in the sense of meeting , going with the other person in the sense of a real stable , emotionally logical relationship.

What is to  have found that many of the first things that were said in this blog but not the bar , night club part .

When you do find a person do not use the generalization that he or she is the one for you it takes many years for that to be shown v.s. being said.

The reason that is so is simply because if you say that then at any point with in the relationship you find out that he or she cheated on you , hid it from you , lied to you about it , the real truth of what was lied to you about , hidden from you about the person is said by another person even if you do not want to hear it , believe it , if it gradually rings true that can be very emotionally , drastically painful in all logic , physiological realizations with also knowing that you said that he or she is the one for you  that makes it hurt even deeper then many of us realize til it actually happens.

In order to have a stable , longer lasting relationship with one another be that a man , a woman one must be more then totally honest, respectful , faithful , devoted to , with each other to start, if either side does anything wrong to the other in the sense of  cheating ./ adultery or do any thing in physical harm to the other or do anything that is also wrong , not logical , not the right thing to do to anyone , not tell the one that your going with with all honesty you need to be prepared to receive any emotional reaction that you will get thus if it becomes to be another physical reaction against you - It is better to tell the one that you are in the relationship with , with that it will show yourself , the other person that you are again in the relationship with 

as well , with that it is logical for the other person to give you the same respect , honesty on things like that to start.

Men 

When you are about to start a relationship with a woman you must be honest , forthcoming to , with a woman , honest , respectful to , with a woman if you want her to be that way to , for you , you can not be acting as if you are still available to other women when in actuality when you are truly in a actual relationship with another woman, that includes do not cheat / commit adultery & never hide things from the woman that you are going with , are in a relationship with , that includes with if you have any medical , physical thing that is thing that you have with in you that is personal such as any diseases like AIDS , HIV , VD , etc, things like Muscular dystrophy or any other physical , mental things that you may have also you must be honest , truthful with her on , about that if you want her to do the same thing , give you he same respect , honesty to , with you on any thing , that includes the type of job that you have , are employed in at that current point , time , your current living situation as well, if you are truly single or married or in a relationship.

And you must not hide the fact if you have any criminal record of any sort , type , for what ever the reason is or maybe, you can not do any physical harm to her or any other person even in her family , your family , any other persons family.

Women

Simply put , short that you must do the same as it is said for the woman that the men should do that you should do for the man.

In addition

It is said , known that for a long while the male gender has cheated , done many things wrong to a woman but since the 1990's - Women have done the same to many men as if it was a generational payback to the male gender for doing the wrong things to the female gender.

Though it is said by many women that the female gender is smarter then the male gender.

That is not factual at all because we all have our own type , level of intelligence.

Plus 

It does not show that the female gender is smarter if the female gender cheats on the male gender while in a relationship with a man , if the woman does any other thing that is wrong to , against the male.

For both Male & Female
Gender revenge against another gender be that cheating / Adultery , etc - Is not a way to make things better or even , in short of this it really does not solve a thing no matter what the reasons that any gender can try to come up with , say in the sense of an excuse it makes things worse both emotionally , psychologically , logically & realistically plus it is an easy way to pass on diseases no matter what gender does it plus the same virus or disease stays with you even as it effects the other gender. 

  All this , more is more then factual if one or both want to , are intending to marry , spend , share each others lives with each other in marriage , that being a life long relationship , marriage without any doubts , any hold backs , if there is any doubts or hold  backs both emotional & physiological then two things need to happen to start.

One: 

You will need to put the wedding on hold til there is  no emotional , physiological

doubts , hold backs of any sort , any reasons , any level.

That is meaning to spend more time with one another to where you both get to know one another more.

Two:

You must go into whats known as couples counseling, resolve any doubts, hold backs , any other emotional quirks , any other thing that their might or may be even the uncertainty that either side or both side may have, even may not realize that they may have , even noticed with in them emotionally , more even if it is about themself or the other person or both them ,, the other person. 

If there is no resolving any issues, any emotional , physiological thing  that there is or might or may be for any reason , there is no reasoning to both sides are not only on the same page , level of understanding , more then it is more then sound logical advice to go your separate ways.

You may have to take time to spend with yourself more as you remain single to re- learn about yourself both physiologically, emotionally it may take a longer time to do so then you want to , may think it might take.

But if you take things a step at a time in gradual physiological emotional steps , remain patient as you do this.

As you do this you may find the many things about , with in you that you may not have realized , known with in , about yourself , that will lead to what you want in a person even while in a relationship , marriage  , what you want for you , in your life , more.

That realistically needs to be done way before you go out in the metaphorical dating field...

Do note:

This goes for both ( Women & Men ) -Equally... 

That it is better to meet a person in person , not on a website / online because you do not truly know the type of person that your really , truly talking with as you get to know them no matter if you do web cam chat with them or just photo to photo , chat room , person to person chat.

Though you have a better chance in knowing the person in person face to face , plus in many ways it is much safer to meet , get to know the person in person face to face.

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For the writer of this blog I can simply say that being single myself I have personally dealt with may of the very things were said in this blog , none of it has worked for me in this current year of 2015 - But it might work better for others .

I have yet to find a thing that will work for me but I can say with that the bus meeting a woman thing , the many other things did work for me for a time but now not so much if at all.

I am a man that has helped many in many situations both emotional , physiological, at tomes just emotional.

I am also an Advocate both regular , Humanitarian & I know phycology in every level , minor, I know many other things bot in medical , many many many other things & with that I have saved an old friends life from being hit by a ( U- Haul Truck ) I am surprised that not one woman wants to know more of , about me to where she would have more then interest in wanting to be with me for who , how I am to start as many want for themselves both males , females...

I do wonder when that will happen for me , I have prayed about it as well but I do have faith that a woman that I am to be with even in marriage will come to me , to her I will come to her.  

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                                                           Example of:
                           The positive relationship that lasts longer even in marriage 

                                     https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OG7yftp3e9o