Single People
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Being single can be seen in many ways starting with where one can spend time with themselves & get to know them, what they like , want , more.
But when it comes to wanting companionship with:
For Women - With a man
For Men - With a woman
There is two sayings when it comes to that, many do know them , what they are :
If you look for him or her that you will find him or her
And
If you do not look he or she will come to you when you do not expect them to.
This writer is experimenting with both of them,in the past this writer has found that the first one works at times , the second one works at other times.
But also when we do not expect it to it more then tends to sway back,forth where the second one works first then the first saying works at other times,what this writer has found currently is that the very sayings will tend to or more then so to stay in the middle til either one decides to play out, that can be very depressing to some,aggravating to others & with that it can play out at the same time where one person be that male or female will experience that both are playing out where the one that they were waiting for when they were not searching comes to them,the one that they were searching for also comes to them.
And that is more then rare if not unheard of as well but it does happen , at times it can happen when we do not expect it to,even realize it does happen,has happened.
When that happens we are surprised I am sure but with that we must always be honest to,with ourselves,to,with others as well.
This writer knows that when it comes to men that many women believe,say that if a man got the chance to be with more then one woman that the guy would not pass it up but in actual reality even the male needs to be honest with himself as the woman has to be honest with herself as well so in all both genders are also equal on that as well as many other things.
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Though there are those that go for the same gender in what in many religions is seen as a sin - In more ways then one .
It even states it in the Bible that it is a sin to be with the same gender in a romantic involvement even sexually , not only spiritually but also morally.
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But those same people are plainly ignoring the Bibles saying on that , going on with the spiritual , mortal sin - And many have
stated that( If God loves us he will accept us , our choices of who , what we ant to be with in marriage- as a life partner even if it is the same gender...) - The fact is that Heavenly Father
dose love us all but we must follow the word of
Heavenly Father - & His teachings , the commandments or we will not be able to be with him when it is our time to return to him.
What they do not realize is that we all were once with
Heavenly Father- but we never really saw him as he is , with that our spiritual bodies did choose to follow his word , teachings,his commandments in why many of us are on this planet the way we are , of who we are.
But it is those that are going to the extent as human beings,as children of Heavenly Father - In the mortal bodies that
we are all in they are going more then totally against the words,teachings,commandments but may following the commandment of > Love thy Mother & thy Father - But are also going the teachings , words & commandments on the other basis that there are.
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Outside of that for those that are straight, want to companionship it seems to many if not all to be very difficult.
to find even now a days, with that I am sure that even several years before it was just if not equally as hard to find the right person for each of us of who we find to be compatible if not more so then that.
And with that many believe in the sense of what many women say , believe that when they do find the right man for them that they often find out at some point that they are not good enough for the man when they find the man with another woman in bed or in other ways.
Though now a days there are many men saying the same about
women when the guy finds the woman in the same,at times different instances then when a woman finds a man in.
It did take a number of years to hear women to admit that there
are those women that are not as trust worthy either.
In what means of course that we are all equally at fault.
So if we really are to be happy with the ones that we both want
to be with we must be sure not only with in us,with in our hearts but also with in the souls of all of us,with that comes that we must be sure that we will want only that one person that
we choose to be with is,will forever be the one , where we will not stray from that decision/ choice,it does not hurt to pray about it in what this writer is sure that there are many that do that just so that they can know not only with in themselves, with their hearts,more but also spiritually.
And even if you are not religious you can still pray to find some comfort as well as an answer, more as well.
Do Note: That goes for both Men & women equally...
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If we all can do that then we will find ourselves in longer lasting happiness,longer lasting relationships & marriage.
Though it is said that over time or any number of years that
our needs , wants change but that can be easily rectified/ dealt with, handled if we work together in relationship's,in a positive emotional way , with that as long as we truly love one another, that also goes for many that are still in relationships,marriages as well as for those that are looking for what is known as> Mister Right - & - Miss Right -- ...
And also it goes equally for those that are in relationships that are new,marriages that are new, with that as well it does not matter if you were married before or for the first time it still plays out the same either way no matter what.
What we all do with our lives,with those tat we are with,are dating or in relationships,or married to does reflect on our youth even of today in what will be at times repeated but not always in the same way as it was when the youth of today was at a young age,yet not many realize that as a fact,reality as well til it is shown or played out when the child is at the age of adult or younger,in a relationships of their own.
And when that happens they often wonder why their child is that way, more then tend to forget of what they did, what happened in front of the child when they were at a very young age.
Not too many think back or reflect again on what caused that to be,yet those that do are not always able to do a thing about it if anything at all,even those that do try to do some thing about it do not always succeed in doing it fully or the right way,even when,if their hearts are in the right place or if they mean well in the sense of caring,love in what many parents have for their children when they want to help them in any way they can to where neither side is negatively effected emotionally,physiologically...
Many believe that it is better to allow it to play out the way it is supposed to play out,what they do not realize by doing that they are not showing the child any consideration or care if they do not at most help them through it as it plays out , if they do help them out even with advice.
Because when,if the parent gets too involved they run the risk of making it worse,not better,it can make the child feel that
they can not deal with it on their own to the points of feeling incapable of being able to take care of it on their own.
That is another thing we as parents do not want to have reflected on the child at all.
If we do too involved then what will happen when we are no longer around the child will more then tend to rely on others to get involved in their situations/issues , that is not healthy , it is not the right thing to have happen we need to be able to teach , show the child that we have faith,belief in their abilities to be able to handle things on their own in a positive way,manor.
If we do not do that not only will the child have a hard time dealing with things on their own even when they are in a relationship but many will wonder how they were raised / brought up,judge the way that very thing in a negative way as well.
That is one of many things we do not want to have happen because it can be a bad reflection on the child as an adult , even before adulthood,many have seen what is a bad reflection on the child is,can be seen as a bad reflection on the parents as well,more then an often occurrence the same cycle is repeated , played out even in different ways,that is one of many things we do not want to have happen no matter what.
Even before the cycle is repeated it can get more difficult for the child to be in any future relationships when,if the first, or second one failed for any number of reasons.
This is what many parents both married or divorced,newly single, widowed really need to know as well do the single adults at any age even with or with out children& even those who have not been in a relationship before,for those in a relationship for the first time,for those that have been in any number of relationships do need to know this as well.
When all things are done in the proper manner,way both emotionally,physiologically,morally,spiritually - As well as legally then there will not be any negative cycle replaying in any way at all.
And we all know that is what we want to have happen,when it does
it will reflect in a positive way , light to our children ,cousins, nephews , many others as well.
If you have any questions or need advice or both please let the writer know.
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