The common misconception between both male & female is to start when it comes to guys that all guys are the same in every way or manor. Starting with the fact that men have been said to only want sex , that is it , that men are a farm animal known as a pig in short that men are pigs... And men are all the same, men are cheaters, lie, etc...
Many of who say those who say those things are of course women yet that is not the true fact of all men at all. Yes we know that there are those that will do things that they themselves know they should not do but also so do many women even in today's day , age.
In fact in today's day , age many women are cheating on the man that they are with , that includes married to as well as dating seriously , those that are engaged.
And they are not telling the man that they claim to love , want to be with, when they are caught with the other guy they try to say that the other guy made her do it or forced her to or that they were just talking , many many many other false hoods that even the woman knows with in her that it is not really true but they try to get the man that again they claim to love , want to be with to believe the woman. And how this writer knows that all too well is that this writer has gone through that that more then once with two different women in his past that said that they would never do wrong in any way even emotionally.
And over the course of a few months or less then that this writer has found that of what they said that they would not do nothing but Lie's / untrue sayings , more.
It is almost as if society is trying to turn the tables on the male gender due to the basic belief that many women have said about men that it may want to see if men would say that very same thing about women that again has been said about many males by many women starting from the 1980's- as some sort of test. Or it could be that in a chronological way or sense or what have you else that it could be a way that women are able to teach men a lesson in a sort of pay back sense if you will for all the negative that the males have said , done to them. Either way its is not the right way to go about it or any other thing its just putting the woman down where the men would be to the women that have said many of what this writer has mentioned in the beginning of this blog. There is a much better way of solving or handling many things even when it comes to the gender wars in the emotional , physiological stand points/ matters. Many of those involve talking with one another, taking the time to really see for one each others sides ,view points , where the both sides both male , females, take the time to understand each other better , the more that both sides do this the less likely that either side will commit any negative , sinful acts such as cheating on each other , more.
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If & when that happens then the commonality of the ever popular fast , wrongful judgments towards or against both genders .
The only way that can happen is if both sides make it that way , many can find that by actually taking the time to talk with one another , actually hearing each others views, emotional points , more that can help both male , female understand where both are coming from in many ways not only emotionally also physiologically, with that they can become closer to one another even in a gradual sense or way. And if that happens more , more where they do talk with one another at various different points emotionally to start then not only will both male , female become close as well as understand one another that would make it where many if not all relationships last longer then what has been shown even with the divorce rate in this country has been pretty high ,.at first surprising to say the least. Currently its not as surprising because of the fact of the fast judgments , sayings about both genders to start. That can change if, only if the two genders do what has been said in this blog , if they need some help with that of how , what way is best for them to go about it they can talk it over with a therapist to start , many in relationships can go about to seek one that deals with marriages. The reason of that choice of a therapist is simple. The reasons is that many relationship's are at times seen as a practice marriage in what prepares both the male & female for a real marriage, in many ways that is not wrong in viewing a relationship between a male , female that way , a real sense it is true that a relationship is seen that way , can be interrupted as such also. So seeing a marriage therapist is the best course of action to take if both sides see one another , would want one another to remain together even in marriage it can not be just the one side that wants that , yet the other side may not see it yet or know yet or even feel that way at any given point. If at all that is the case then it can lead to an emotional break up or split , that can be way more then difficult , hard to deal with , handle for many if not all , with this it does not have to have a depending upon the type of person variable or stand point as many other things do.
That being said you may now realize that not only women take that situation , matter emotionally hard many males do as well.
The male takes it equally as hard but they express it differently then women do , it does not always lead to having sex with another woman just to rectify their emotions with in them.
Many of both genders have gone where it is known as more then the over extreme , that has been said more often when one takes his or her own life due to such of an emotional split or heart break yet in actual reality it does not solve a thing even though the person that is about to do such an action thinks that it would do if they were not around anymore. In all actuality it would make things worse to start for the person that commits the action, it makes things worse for the loved ones in who are also the same ones that care for , about , love the person that is about to , or did the action of ending his or her own life with out taking the time to realize that there are many things that are positive emotionally to start , when it comes to relationships there is a saying that is known to tie in with this situation , that is ( There are still many fish in the sea ) - Of course meaning that there are many more men , women out there that would not hurt the person emotionally , who would want to meet the person, get to know him or her. With that said this writer more then understands why those that do not see that do not see that in actuality , that is because of the emotional pain that they feel so deep with in them that they are unable to see beyond that ,with that they do not know how to resurface to where they can see beyond that to where they can see the positive even as they are in the negative emotion at that point.
Even with that being more then a fact in reality there are ways to deal with that , that is to try , keep busy by doing any activities or hobbies that may interest the person & also going on outings or walks with friends or family, also seeing a therapist is another step to it , eventually the person should then be able to gradually rebuild him or herself with in , that would go to the next step of taking time with themselves by themselves, when it comes time to where they feel that they are emotionally willing , strong enough to try the well known metaphor of playing the field of dating or the dating field but still take things one step at a time no matter what the urges may make them feel at any given point.
It is still better to take things slowly or gradually one step at a time or in another way of putting it being step by step.
When that is done then the person being both male , female would then gradually feel more at ease , comfortable with themselves from with in to start, as time passes , when the person gets to know the other person more even as the other person gets to know the person that once had that deep emotional heart break then, only then will the metaphorical shield can be , would be brought down gradually starting from with in the person , that can be done in the same way or manor with the person that is also getting to know the other person.
And the person that was about to commit that negative action that he or she was about to do at the one point they will eventually see that they will be happy , glad that they did not do the negative action.
So in all the only way to make sure that both male,female are happy , comfortable not only with in themselves , with the situation , the other person they both must be willing to sit down with one another , talk with one another , as they do that they would gradually get to know more about the person , have a better understanding about the person , how they feel both emotionally , physiologically. That would be a good , logical start to where not only all relationships , marriages last longer then what is seen , known to be at even this current century but also the century beyond this century. That would also gradually make the well known divorce rate go down to where it would be nonexistent, that is one of many things to aim or reach for as well as many other things are to reach for that can , are viewed to be positive emotionally , physiologically. Also this entire thing that is said in this blog can also work in a logical , positive way for those that have children from past or previous & current marriages, the common misconception of , about both male & female would be nonexistent as well.
In addition: The other common misconception is that many women think that the world revolves around them to the extent that the woman says what she wants , she gets it , where the woman decides when that is okay for , when the guy gets what they want , this pertains to when the woman , man are not together officially , at times they use it to the points of non-reality being that is not the way things work in reality at all, even when the two genders are in a relationship together to the again extent as long as the woman gets what she wants that is all that matters, that is not realistic no matter if the woman likes it or not , many others who go by that same mind set need to realize the same fact of that as well.
The same is said for , about the males out there that have the same type , basic mind set as the numbers of women that do . If either side is to be truly happy even in a relationship or even be able to be in one things need to be equal for both the male & female where if the woman gets some thing then the male gets things as well , both have to be done with in reality basis , reason as well.
If they do not then they will remain single , alone til at any point , time that they actually realize that part of it , if at all they do realize it then & only then will they be able to be in a relationship with another , actually be truly , honestly happy along with that they must be not only honest , truthful to, with themselves but also to , with the person that they are in the relationship with as well even before they start a relationship with the other person.
This goes for both Males, females equally , in all reality, fairness.
In the beginning both genders have gone through many things in every way both emotional , physiological in many situations , issues both in dating & relationships, if all things go well to where they more then get along emotionally , more then eventually comes marriage.
Then when the marriage goes in to effect then over the course of days , weeks , years / time things do tend to go positive , strong , long lasting , at other times even in today's day , age things do go wrong in many ways as well. Many have lasted for 60 to 50 . 40 , 30 years , many others do try to reach that if not surpass that.
And due to many other things that do at times more then tend to happen for various reasons but none of them are logical . realistic or reasonable, forgive-able, one of many of them has more then one wording for the one thing in what is not right to do to any one no matter who you are , no matter what gender you are.
In fact religiously, spiritually it is called/ considered a sin, that one word that is also seen as an action is cheating that same word , action is also known as Adultery , its also known asinfidelity.
Either way that it is said or called , seen as it is still not positive at all, it is one of many that ends not only relationships , marriages.
It can also effect us emotionally , medically.
We are not immortal or invincible in any way shape or form , what have you else....
It does not matter how long either gender has been with the other.
If you are with one person be that if you are a man , you are with a woman , or if you are a woman in a relationship with a man , you have promised one another to be with that one person be that again each other , no other person no matter what then both male , female genders must stay with that one person, if there is any emotional or physiological there are better way then to deceive lie , cheat on one another or on the other. I know that with today's , fast pace world , lives that we all lead we are still human beings with not only emotions , feelings, wants , needs , desires, urges , more in what at times if not more then so tend to tie in with a hormonal basis.
Even though we have all those with in us no matter how we view things, no matter how many times we so called tend to forget things even those that we have promised another or any other thing that ties in with that it still is no reason to cheat / commit adultery on one another or the other person,
If you do that what is wrong then that shows many people as well as yourself if you take the time to look at it , with in yourself you will see also by doing that of what is wrong when you are already with another you will see that you are not really ready for a serious / long lasting relationship with anyone no matter how much you love , want to be with anyone that you are with on either side of the table being no matter what gender you are & of what gender that you are with be that if you are again a male with a female or if you are a female with a male. Before you start a relationship with a man or a woman you must first be true , honest , have confidence with in yourself , also in order to trust , have faith in one person you must have trust , faith with in yourself to where you have faith in yourself , that you trust yourself , with that if you are to really love another you must first really love yourself. It is very easy to say that you have all of those for , with in yourself but you must take the time really , honestly take the time to look with in yourself , there may be times that you will find that you don't have those or simply can not find them with in you that does not mean that you are no human in any way at all. If one can not yet at any given point or time or both can not find that of what was said earlier it is a normal thing , it just simply means that you need to spend more time with yourself before you start/ go in to a relationship with anyone at any given point , time. If you go in to a relationship with another , you say all the positive emotional things to them ,at that same point , time that you do not truly feel that with in yourself for yourself then you are not being true to them as well as yourself in any way at all no matter what you may say or think. That can lead to many things starting with divorce if it goes further then a boy friend girlfriend. And that can be not only emotionally painful / hurtful to the woman but it is equally as emotionally painful to the male as well. And yes it is true that women are more in tune / in touch with their emotions , feelings but that does not dis clued the fact that a man has emotions , feelings , is also a human being.
I know that with the basis of society, the mind set that it has set for both genders like for example:
For Males:A man must be strong tough confidant take charge of things , more, the man must not show his true emotions , feelings how sensitive they are because that is a sign of weakness.
For Females:A woman must be in tune with their emotions , feelings ,sensitive, more. That simply is the wrong way of viewing the genders , training them to be as such in what has been done for many centuries.
With that the female gender has been said to be viewed as inferior / the weaker of the two genders.
That is a wrong way to view treat any of the two genders ,the reason is
that in all reality we both have our weaknesses,strong points with in us
all no matter the gender.
That mind set has also made it tougher for the female gender even when many guys have viewed , treated them as sex objects , piece of meat , a sex toy to where many women eventually feel that is all that they are good for, put on this planet for, more.
That leads to where the woman feels used , unwanted , not really needed ,respected , loved , cared for ,more in what eventually leads to depressionwith in the woman. But since the late80'sto early90's it has been seen , said that the woman is playing the same emotional game if you will in what the ,ale has done to them for many years starting from the 1970's if not earlier then that in what they would view of it being their way of getting back at the male gender even with the fact that there are those males that would not do that of what other men have done to many women, many that do that do more then tend to ignore that fact , reality of it , just go with doing that of what they know with in themselves is wrong yet with even that aspect , fact many do not seem to care because they do not see that guys / any part of the male gender care about when they did it to the woman / female gender.
With that there has been many derogatory type wording/ sayings about both the male , female genders. And mostly due to the emotional , physiological pain that both genders more then tend to carry with them even after they have gotten over the emotional pain ,many more then tend to deny that fact when they know that they have said the derogatory words, that they still in some way carry that hurt with them still , have not yet fully gotten over it all in what is normal but by saying the derogatory words dose not make them feel any better , it does not make things in general better at all, with that it more then tends to bring back the reminder of the emotional pain , that is not good either but feeling the emotional pain part of it all is still normal,
That is one of many things that is part of being human as well are many other things also.
I know that what many guys have done to many women is wrong , not justified in any way , for any reason no matter what but many of those same women that do that very same thing that many men have done to the female gender must really take the time to really , honestly ask themselves , think :Do I really want to keep doing this even though it was , has been done to me as well as many other females even before me or do I want to change things by doing better for not only myself but our future , many other women may soon follow in what can , will be seen as an action better then what men have done it what would put the female gender in the positive light both emotional , realistic, more , many can choose to see it as an action that is better then the male gender in all -Or do I want to keep doing this of what I am doing in the sense of emotional revenge against the male gender there by not help make things better for either side / gender even for the future besides myself?
Both for the woman , their future , the future of our youth I'd hope that they would follow the right path in what leads to not go to the points of revenge against the males ,if the male dose that very thing that is realistically , emotionally , morally, spiritually wrong to do to any woman that the woman would simply leave or if the woman is married that shed divorce the man that did / has done them wrong by cheating on them to start..
No matter what the reasons are or might be do we want to instill that of what is negative , wrong emotionally , morally , realistically , spiritually in our youth just because,of what was done to us both male , female , due to society it is the way things must be or can we do better then what society has trained each gender over the course of time, more where we can change things for he better , not the worst where it can be viewed as societies views have changed to where many things are in the emotionally positive light?
Do note:That when , if the female gender does not go down the metaphorical path way that is better then what the males have gone down in how ever many years starting from the past to now to start with then with that instill in our youth of the the right way to be , go about many things starting with relationships, many other things in a positive emotional , physiological way / manor then as our youth grow in to adulthood as it is called then we could eventually see the positive happen sooner then what we may even say , think even at this very point , time , present... With all that the male gender of today's day , age may follow the positive way of those males that do not do the women / female gender wrong in any way. \ In today's day , age there are still females that would not do anything wrong to many males in the same way.
And yes there are many males that would not do any thing wrong to any woman both emotionally ,physiologically , moral;y , spiritually , physically to start, the same is true about the female gender as well. Not one female can say that there are no females that would ever do a man wrong in any way , the reason I say that is that many have seen , felt the emotional impact , so has this writer. With that the way that thing as they were , are at even this present year , time , more will soon be no more. it will gradually be passed on to many other generations of youth.
Eventually it would change the viewing of all that live in this country , planet , what would also span to other countries as well in what would be seen as the way that society will then view it as.
I know that the second part may not happen in our life time of where it would span to other countries , cultures , more but this writer has always believed in having faith , belief , many other positive things both emotional ,physiological.
And I hope even after many that have or are reading this that they will eventually see that it is more then possible to have help it happen in their own way.
