Who do we really fit with what we are looking for?
In finding out what, who we are looking for , who we are looking for , what we want in that one that we are looking for we must start to make sure that we are truly ready for a relationship.
And for those of us that have been through many relationships that have gone down hill for any number of reasons starting with betrayal or any type of heart break , cheating , any other thing that has gone to where the ones that once were two are now back to one.
With that it takes many of us a while if not more then that to recoup , reassess many things with in us starting with the many emotional things with in us then we gradually rebuild ourselves up from with in , as we do that we add in the emotions that have been repaired with in us , then confidence ,belief with in us , I know that we eventually gain back the basic understanding of many things that we knew on many things that we have known even before the negative emotions have clouded that of what we knew , still know.
That process in it self does take some people longer to go through the entire thing.
Those that do not realize that you must know that of what was said is true , it is a normal thing in many who do take longer to recoup or recover from the emotional heart breaks , more that they have seen done to them while in a relationship with another.
When we all do get over the heart break or betrayal , more we all do at times require more time to,with ourselves to make sure that we are wanting the same thing that we once wanted the first number of times , even at the very first time we ever dated.
We often find that we add more to what we once wanted , still want in what is still in place with in us emotionally to start as well as morally , spiritually but with that part I know not all look at it that far but none the less it does happen , as we get older we get to know that fact of it not only by realizing it or even noticing it.
Many do have the things that are emotionally negative to them are married , eventually get divorced , at times they first separate from one another but it practically more then often end up divorced though I know while going in to a marriage we often think that no negative emotional thing will ever happen to them though when it does it blows them back emotionally when the negative emotional thing does happen to them so in all we all would have to be prepared for many things that we do not want to see happen to us no matter what it is , why , more.
Even with that many do wonder why in this country the divorce rate is high even those that commit the wrong doing do also wonder why but also think that they will not be divorced even before,after they do the sinful act of cheating behind the back of the ones that they are with be that in a serious relationship or married to.
And with that fact many at times many have been heard by many people starting with their own family as well as friends of theirs but eventually end up married again.
Though what also causes the general separation , fear of many relationships to start up is the common misconceptions on,about both genders being of course males,females.
But that is very understandable for those that have gone through many negative emotional things but it does also effect those that would not , have not done any of the negative emotional things that many of the same gender have done to the other , at times that have been done to those that would not, again have not done to the other even though it was or has been done to them.
So in finding another that may or may not feel or seem suitable or in other terms being a perfect fit does seem to get more , more difficult day by day ,month by month & year by year even with that of what is said that is negative about both genders.
But no matter how difficult that it may be at any give time or point it is better to take ones time even as you get to know any person that being any man or woman even if they claim that they are really ready , even if you feel that you are really ready it does not hurt to look with in yourself from time to time to see , really feel if you are , do not worry doing that is also normal to do as well though by doing that it is found easier to do that when you have time to yourself v.s. being around many people while doing so.
How this writer knows this is not due to the fact that of what has been said in this blog is not because of this writers status it is simply that this writer has seen many of what was said in this blog , also has witnessed it as well , also has been through a small number of those, has seen the many others happen to many of others , at times the same thing that has happened to the writer of this blog also has happened to many others as well that is more then self aware to this writer but so is the general fact , reality that it has become worse for others then it was,or has been for this writer.
What this writers relationship status is at current is not the issue or topic but this writer does care about every person even those that have been hurt emotionally ,physiologically , the writer helped through the emotional pain that they have had , this writer will continue to help those through it no matter what.
It may seem difficult but no one person knows whats right for any person in reality the only one that is single , knows from with in them of what , who they want but at the same time they can not stay hung on to one for too long because that can not only make them feel unwanted,not attractive enough or any other basis with that all depending on the gender.
It can also turn many other possible people that show interests in you or who ever else it can also make one go in to deep depression.
That is one of many things that we do not want to have , let happen to any one of us no matter what.
It is understandable that you or who ever may have more of an interest in the one that you or again who ever has on , towards that one person who ever that man or woman may be at any given point,time but if you can see that the one person that you are hung up on even emotionally is keeping his or her main focus on another then it should tell you or any other person that the person that they are again hung up on is not that interested in them if they were then they would focus on you or who ever else it would be , the other person if at all at that point but if that is not the case then it would be logical to move on to see if you or who ever can find one that wants to be with you , only you , one of many ways that can be shown is that the person focuses on you even if there is another that may want to be with the person.
That is one of many ways that can show that you are their main focus,that they want to know you , want to be with you to start with.
At the same time make sure that the person that you or who ever it may be is more then sure that they feel the same way as they do about you to start, with that try , picture your life with them,see how clear,comfortable emotionally to start that is to you & if that is a comfortable , positive viewing of the time ahead as you would be able to see it at first then you would want to talk with the person more , that in it self is normal but if at any point,time the view changes even while talking with the person then you can either stop talking with him or her or see if at any point the person change's so that the images with the person is positive emotionally to start but if it repeats to be negative then you would want to stop talking with him or her at that point or at the next encounter, keep searching for the one , as you do that stay emotionally positive with in yourself , in thought, you may find that the one woman or man will come you way when you least expect it to happen.
The reason I say that is simple if we keep expecting that of what I said in where a person comes to you its like the old saying in what is: A watched pot never whistles or for some people may see it as that a watched pot never boils.
And even when one is in search for a soul mate that saying still rings true even in that situation as it does with , in many other situations,more.
If you in who is reading this blog has any questions on or about any of what has been said in this blog to start or if he or she needs any advice please do ask in the comment part of this blog.
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